Envy, the beast, I always thought it was a "feeling" to be given to the richest people, even acquaintances who live in a beautiful villa, going on holiday to the Seychelles or to her friends because the more brilliant or lucky with men in the case of well-known female envy or friends (much less common form) in respect of men who have success and power in society. The modus operandi of the envious person is a classic well-known: first you admire, then you check and then put in place any strategies to demonstrate to the world and herself that are not worth anything up to, in pathological cases, defamation premeditated intent to destroy. I used to think a little person to be absolutely free from this form of unhealthy dependence on what can be, do or have others, but I had the "luck" to discover my skin look even unknown to envy, I have been for years unwitting victim of the most sordid and sticky of envy: that of their partner. Be careful, do not get confused with jealousy, in my opinion within the limits of propriety, a natural feeling and constructive, which may have an important role in bonding in couples. Because I believe that sound is always flow from jealousy, and envy are inevitably accompanied by less noble emotions, until you come to hate. Just what has happened to me. Our couple, it must be said, was not just the standard ones: the two of us, seen together, remembered a cubist painting, so small was physical harmony. Now a brief history, I would, however, to tell it in third person, so try to be absolutely impartial. She tall, size 42, flowing hair, pretty, good posture, he low, very low fat, very fat (130 pounds), big big head resting on a neck away, all belly, sitting like a deflated balloon clothes, arms and stubby legs: a beautiful look on the other hand, profound and at the same time as a child, beautiful hair e. .. I would say that we have the physical part. Still, her supporters believe that love is blind, has never focused on him as a defect with the morphological characteristics. What was much more difficult, if anything, do accept people close to the family, friends and the friends and acquaintances have always been in disbelief, some in shock, did not stop to ask how it was possible that a pretty girl ... etc could be with such a big man. She said that they were racist, the surface that the physical appearance of people has nothing to do with the intrinsic quality of their essence. But, at least in this case was wrong. Because he gradually the story grew, from an initial attitude of kindness, generosity and appreciation, has begun to emerge destructive behavior toward her, turning, day after day, in a being petty, pathetic and sometimes violent. In this house hung a sort of meandering contempt: " that you bad feet" and she replied "but I am a 38, are standing by sports," "you wear white pants only to emphasize that you have a small seating" and she "really, but the white is in fashion this year," "do everything to put on display, to the envy of your friends, your sister, etc ..." and her "I'm just really myself ". In short, an escalation of criticism, contemptuous reviews, but empty of content. You, lost in the maze of his illusions, he looked at his feet and said: "In fact, Japanese are not standing by, but I'm happy there "But the best was to come. The attacks were also moving on the side of character: she, private person, a bit 'timid, gentle with all, if it happened (and it was very rare) that attracted the public attention to himself, for saying something brilliant or have made others laugh, he quickly silenced her: "You're always in the spotlight, you're un'egocentrica, do the priestess and her" but if I said two words all night, it's you who do not stop by two hours "or during the dinner organized at home, addressed the guests (he is a good cook):" see how many beautiful dishes you have prepared, but she if she could feed herself if she is not for sharing, thinks only of herself. " Well yes, at this point she began to awake from slumber ... there was actually something that did not return. She had the impression of living with the enemy home. Frustrated the attempts by her to understand what was happening: he replied that he had an unidentified "malaise", which however was all her fault (this is all you say, dear boys). Now, I would not go on too long, the fact is that he, one day, overnight, he ran as the sole explanation giving the "bad." Even now, after several months, he has the courage to meet the two times that happened he started crying saying that he arrived at a good point: going through the discomfort, then immediately fled like a hare. She has done a nice dose of hand mental and then came to the conclusion: the malaise was pure envy. Even people who attended the couple, a bit 'surprised, they said, "but because you had not noticed that the died of envy about you?" So, dear friends, if your partner with exaggerated criticism and attempts to diminish every day, do not feel the least guilty: This is proof that you are perfect ! And he is only a timid, usually a mother was ugly, ignorant and obsessive, and a terrible childhood and for that, you, according to his jealous mind, you should be punished for being too vital, vibrant and loving against yourselves, first and then the universe that surrounds you .
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